REJECTED LOVE

 I want to ask all of you a question. 

Have you ever felt unloved? What about unaccepted? I know I have. And let me tell you, it hurts. I can deal with pain well. I have a high pain tolerance, but when it comes to my heart… lol that’s something I’ve always been sensitive to. I try so hard to give my all, and sometimes it’s never enough. That’s hard for me. And I know it’s hard for a lot of you too. 

Anytime I get in those situations, where I feel unloved and I accepted, I always go to God. “ God, why me? Why won’t the love me though it? Or why won’t they stay by my side through it?” I always feel like I’m the problem.   

“ Hi, it’s me. I’m the problem it’s me” 😂😂 

You see, even though God loves us, even if we don’t love him. But there is something inside of us. Something in our human nature that we still have the desire to be loved. The desire for someone to be there with us. And what I’ve learned, it’s that I have been forcing people to love  me. Forcing people to want to be a part of my life. For them to love me in some way. But we can’t force someone to love us. That’s upon their own will, such as us loving God. He doesn’t force us, but we do love him. Loving someone is our own desire.  

In the Bible there are 4 types of loves. 

1.) The Eros love. It’s a romantic love. It’s emotional. Next we have 

2.) The storge love. It’s the kind of love we have for our family. Well, I would hope you would love your family 😂as crazy as my family is, it’s hard not to love them. 

3.) The philia love. That’s the love you have for your friends. This  year I probably have the best friends and I love them to death. 

And here we are the last kind of love. 

4 .) The Agape love. The love that God has. The agape love is the only love that won’t change, even if we do. His love doesn’t stop if we stop loving him. His love for us is more than we can fathom. 

In the Bible it actually tells us how love should be. 

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

I want you to think about those things. Before you engage in a new relationship, heck even the one you’re in now ask yourself those as questions. Are they patient? Are they kind? 

If they aren’t any of those, then they are only in your life for one of 3 things. 

1. A reason 

2 . A season  

And 3 . A purpose. 

Some people just aren’t meant to be a part of your life anymore . There are going to be some people who only see the parts of you that they like. And when things change, so do their attitudes or emotions toward you. 

Sometimes I wish I could change how God made me. I care too much. I pour my 100% even if they’re not pouring anything. And I keep on pouring , not getting anything in return. I love too deeply. I tell God all the time, do you think that’s a character flaw? Did you mean to make me like that? I have myself blinded so I can only see the good in people. Some people though, can’t see the good at all. But at the end of the day, despite my failures. My God, he always sees the good in me.