Wife, Wife, Baby

Ha, ha. Get it? Ice, ice, baby? Okay, okay. I’m not all that funny. And to think about it, I’m not all that interesting either. But, you’ve made it this far.

Back to our question: How do I know whether or not I am wife material?

What does it take to be a “wife”? If your answer is a ring, or a man, you’re in for a surprise. Being a “wife” is a characteristic long before it becomes a title. The first couple mentioned in the Bible is Adam and Eve. If you’re familiar with the Bible, you know the story of creation. If you aren’t familiar, allow me to enlighten you in a nutshell.

** Side note: I just learned that nuts are grown and not made in factories.. You know, looking at a peanut, for example, you have two perfect halves that look welded together? Well, at least that’s the way I saw it. **

Back to creation: Man was created out of the image of God, unlike God’s other creations. In typical manly fashion, man got lonely. God put Adam into a deep sleep, drew a rib from him, and created Eve (Genesis 1–2).

Ribs are at the sides of our bodies; therefore, man and wife should stand beside one another as a team. Was I capable of standing beside a man through thick or thin? Did I have characteristics of a Proverbs 31 woman? Did my spirit contain Christ-like attributes (Galations 5:22–23)? These were things that I went back to quite a bit in my season of healing. You don’t start a new relationship if you’re still bleeding from your old one. You’ll bleed on people who never cut you. I wanted to make sure that I was fully prepared to be a wife, and in ways, I am. No, I’m not married, (yet- maybe my boyfriend will see this and propose) but I carry myself like a wife.

I cannot stress this enough. Pray for your future. Pray for future you, your future spouse, your future children. Those things will find you when the Lord deems it right. For the longest, praying for my future husband would be the last thing on my mind. But after last year, I was determined to not date until I had plenty of time to pray about it. That January, or this January really since we’re still in 2020 ** cough cough**, I went to the mall and bought a tie. As it hangs in my room to this day, it’s a reminder to pray for my future spouse. The day that he and I get married, I will gift it to him prior to the wedding. I want a husband, not a boyfriend. A husband is INTENTIONAL. A husband shares many of the same qualities as Christ. When you are with the right person, being in that relationship should not make you feel insecure or unwanted. Marriage is the whole goal of dating. If you wouldn’t marry your significant other as they are, it’s more than likely not the relationship God has for you/them. You get to pick your significant other; children don’t get to pick their parents. Would your significant other make a good parent?

**I most definitely do NOT mean to go find someone else’s husband, just to make that clear.**

I honestly forgot what the purpose of this post is, so, uh, I’m just gonna let myself out now. Until next time-